On Facebook, the following post has been making the rounds:
A real woman always keeps her house clean & organized, the laundry basket is always empty. She’s always well dressed, hair done. She never swears, behaves gracefully in all situations & circumstances. She has more than enough patience to care for her family, always has a smile on her lips, & a kind word for everyone.
My house is not as clean nor organized as I would like, the laundry basket(s) are seldom empty, I’m not always well-dressed, and my hair often looks like I flew in on a Harley with no helmet.Â I can’t promise that I never swear, am quite sure that I’m awkward in some situations, and run short on patience on occasion.Â Sometimes I scowl, and not all of my words are kind.Â Â That grouping is not what I aspire to, but it is what it is.
Yet, I’m quite certain I’m not a man.Â I’ve given birth without drugs, and gotten out of bed the next morning to care for an infant and three children ages six and under.Â I can pick things from my backyard garden and make supper of it, with all the nutritional value needed for my family.Â Three of those four children — all girls, by the way — are in college or graduate school.Â All are mastering fields traditionally not thought of as women’s work: math, physics, and materials science engineering.
And they can all cook, to varying degrees.Â Alpha can sew, and Beta is learning.Â Delta can take apart just about any electronic gadget, re-solder the loose connections, and put it back together in working order.Â Gamma is very gifted with young children, especially teaching them to swim.Â I bet none have empty laundry baskets, but they manage to wear clean clothes every day.
Yet, any one of us can comfort a child, or an animal in need.Â Any one of us can prepare nourishment — for one, or many.
A “real” woman?Â That would be one who puts her family first, whether that means excelling in the domestic arts or bringing home the check that pays the mortgage.Â I guess the same would be true for a “real” man — one who puts family first, whether that is in the role of provider or caregiver.Â Â Or some combination of both, as is more common today.
Come to think of it, I have some more caregiving duties to attend before the sun rises tomorrow.Â Take care, and be real — whatever that is.